Neither is wrong, as drinking tea is about cultivating one's character and nurturing the mind—whether one chooses to focus on cultivation or nurturing is a personal decision.

Tea drinkers know that aligning one's preferences with their physical constitution is the standard for finding a good tea.

If the tea doesn't suit your taste, it's fine not to drink it.

There's a saying: The greatest freedom one can pursue is not the freedom to do whatever one wants, but the freedom to not do what one doesn't want to do. If everyone lived in the freedom of doing whatever they wanted, wouldn't the world be in chaos?

But having the right to refuse what one doesn't want to do is the simplest form of freedom. Not drinking tea that doesn't suit one's taste is the simplest freedom for a tea lover.

Apply the attitude of choosing tea to making friends.

Comparing tea to friends, your approach to selecting tea can also serve as a philosophy for friendship. First and foremost, it should be based on what suits you. Two people with different worldviews and values may find conversations exhausting, but if both are willing to understand each other's perspectives, they can become genuine friends.

However, if both try to change the other's views to align with their own, it's like forcing oneself to drink tea that clashes with their constitution—it only exhausts the mind and harms the body.

There's never a case where a friend forcefully changes your views, and you still willingly give for them. Friendship also has its balance; if it's uneven, one side will inevitably fall. Such friendships are better left unmade.

Genuine friends aren't hard to find.

Don't always say you don't have time to maintain a friendship. Friends are like stars in the sky—they silently accompany you when night falls and you need them.

Forced maintenance always carries a hint of reluctance.

Don't complain about having a small social circle. Even if only one person extends a helping hand when you're in trouble, it's better than a hundred who turn away at the sound of your plea.

Make friends like tea—light and fragrant, enriching your spirit.

They won't try to change you but will inspire you to change for them. Just like someone who doesn't drink tea, once they taste their favorite flavor, they naturally seek beautiful utensils to complement their love for that tea.

Even if you must part, wish each other well. Tea that doesn't suit you doesn't mean it lacks quality to become someone else's treasure; people with differing views aren't necessarily bad—they're just not the right fit.

So when parting, say goodbye properly and cherish the past connection.

If the tea doesn't suit your taste, don't drink it; if the person isn't sincere, part ways.

It's a choice and an attitude. My decisions are first based on what makes me comfortable; second, I consider whether you're worth changing the first rule for.